Reborn in the Eighties as a Housewife with a Space

Chapter 2701: Chapter 2697: No Rules, No Standards

But when adults start observing children, when there’s something they don’t understand, the adults watch from the side, letting them try and play on their own.

Then letting them put their hand over the flame to get burned, or touch it and feel the pain.

Then they’ll know this object is not to be played with, it hurts, it’s dangerous, and the next time they see it, naturally a mental association is formed that it’s dangerous and shouldn’t be played with.

In this way, children can understand on their own what can be played with and what cannot.

Faced with such matters, isn’t it reassuring for parents?

After all, isn’t it better than adults simply putting away the lighter directly?

Qin Xue once saw a child who wanted to play with a knife, and although the parents said it was sharp and could cause injury, the child didn’t believe it and insisted on playing.

As his father, he knew that unless the child played with it a little, he wouldn’t be satisfied, so he watched as the child played.

Later, when the child got the knife from his father, he happily played with it, even using it to whittle sticks. But accidentally, he cut his hand, and from then on, he never played with a knife again.

At that time, Qin Xue asked the father why, knowing the knife was dangerous, he still let the child play with it.

The father replied to her: Children are like undeveloped treasures; we don’t know what kind of thoughts are in their hearts.

Moreover, we all grew up too, and each of us has a desire for the unknown, wanting to try, wanting to understand.

If we can’t satisfy their curiosity, and they think adults don’t want them to do it, and develop such a mentality, they’ll find ways to explore.

At that point, without adults around, if something happens, it’s regrettable. So I’d rather watch him, watch him get hurt, and bandage him afterward, letting him understand that my dissuasion is for his good. This way, in the future, he’ll listen when I say something is dangerous.

Because before, when I said it was dangerous, he didn’t listen, but after experiencing it himself, knowing it’s true, he’ll naturally listen.

After hearing the father’s words, Qin Xue thought for a long time and felt it was very true. Children are like blank pages; it’s up to adults to guide them, and if guided well, their future success is inevitable.

Conversely, if adults lack rules, then children surely won’t grow in a good direction. As it’s said, without rules, there’s no order, showing how important it is to set rules and have children follow them from a young age.

So when Qin Xue saw the accommodations arranged by Yu Xiu and her family, she felt they did well in this aspect.

They didn’t just keep a gradually maturing child living with them in a small house, as it impacts their psychology differently.

Parents often adopt an avoidance attitude when faced with certain things, so when children are young, they secretly try to find answers. When they grow up, they certainly won’t confront issues directly and also adopt an avoidance attitude, which is beyond doubt.

Therefore, Qin Xue never considered letting her children in the family develop different ideas because she’s there, and how could she let them go that way? If it really comes to that, she’ll just frankly explain it. Not understanding now doesn’t mean they won’t understand in the future, will it? There will always be times of understanding.